Are you and your partner fighting frequently? Has poor communication led to unresolved conflict? Are you considering ending your relationship or divorce?
Intimate relationships can be tough at times. If you're currently experiencing relationship trouble, you and your partner may be engaging in the following poor relationship patterns:
Communication is minimal and often negative
Differences are criticised rather than enjoyed
You are spending less time together
One partner indicates the relationship is in trouble
Conflict leads to resentment, not resolution
There are fewer fun moments
Put-downs are more common than compliments
Perhaps you and your partner have become distant from each other. Maybe one of you has shut down completely and won't communicate anymore. You may be dealing with the after effects of infidelity or the loss of a child. Or you may simply be experiencing the common ebbs and flows of long-term relationships.
All couples experience rough patches.
Conflict is a natural and unavoidable component of interpersonal relationships. In many cases, conflict is a sign of a normal and healthy relationship when partners communicate their differences respectfully and actively listen to one another. However, at times, partners fall short of that standard. Poor communication and lack of listening can lead to resentment, contempt, and, eventually, dissolution of the relationship. How often and how a couple communicates is one of the most important aspects of a healthy relationship. In fact, the inability to communicate has been identified the most common reason why marriages and relationships end (65%).
How we recover and behave after a conflict creates long-lasting effects. Even though every relationship will have its ups and downs, many couples feel ashamed when they’re having relational problems. You may have the impression that because you love each other, sharing a life together should be easy, but this simply isn’t true as, typically, nothing worth having comes to us easily. Anything worth having requires work and effort. Relationships are no different. Your rough patch is not necessarily a sign that your relationship is ending. It may just be time to leverage the help of a professional to get your relationship back on track.
Couples counseling can help you and your partner communicate more effectively.
Fortunately, the Marriage and Family therapists at Rhapsody Behavioral Healthcare have worked with many couples experiencing rough patches in their relationships. Our therapists take an objective, solutions-oriented approach to helping couples improve their communication techniques and change unproductive behavioral patterns that have led you and your partner to conflict in the past.
At the start of counseling, we will complete an intake assessment to understand each individual's needs and desired outcomes. Your therapist will help you and your partner to hear and balance each other's needs in a fair and equitable manner. Your therapist will provide a controlled environment in which each of you can express yourselves to the other. Your therapist will not serve as a referee, but as a coach and advisor to help you communicate clearly and respectfully. Your therapist will also give you homework assignments to complete throughout the week to practice your new communication techniques. In your sessions, you and your therapist will discuss what worked, what didn't, and how to improve over the next week.
Even though you may not feel too optimistic about your relationship today, with the right tools and support, you can feel heard, understood, and loved again. When both members of the couple are fully committed to counseling goals, the results can be outstanding!
"But, I don’t want to share our personal problems with a stranger."
It is difficult to be vulnerable and transparent with someone you don't know well, especially if what you need to discuss is less than flattering. But, just as you often have to discuss private medical concerns with your physician, it is safe to discuss private relationship concerns with your marriage and family therapist. Your therapist is a licensed professional who is bound by confidentiality. You can rest assured that the content of your sessions will not be shared with others. Just as with a medical concern, delaying the visit to your marriage and family therapist can lead to greater complications in the long run. Let us help you and your partner nip conflict in the bud before it worsens.
"Marriage counseling is too expensive."
Marriage counseling is an investment in your relationship. Investing time and money into resolving conflict now may not only repair your relationship, but save you thousands of dollars and an exorbitant amount of pain and stress often caused divorce. Your counselor is a highly-trained and licensed professional. The long-term benefits of working with a seasoned professional to repair your relationship largely outweigh the fees. The average cost of a wedding in the State of Illinois is a whopping $39,700. You'll spend less than 6% of that on three months of couples counseling at Rhapsody Behavioral Healthcare. Your relationship is worth it.
Schedule a free 15 minute consultation.
Still not sure if couples counseling is right for you? Contact us for a free 15-minute consultation to discuss your unique set of circumstances with one of our therapists. You may also schedule an appointment for an intake session at our Downers Grove office. We are here to help.